44 – Consequences (Lessons From Fiji)

“Wananavu” that is Fijian for Awesome!! We learned that whilst white water rafting through the canyons in Fiji and Wananavu pretty much summed up the scenery. When you think of Fiji you probably have a vision of an island with sandy beaches and palm trees. What we discovered was not only do they have the beaches, but a rain forest with villages along the way that are breathtaking.

Fiji was in drought when we arrived and it had not rained in four months. Our guide on the raft told us that the water level had dropped by a good three metres through the canyon which resulted in us having to paddle a bit more than normal as the flow of water that usually pushes the raft along is not there. It also meant that some rocks surface that are not usually there which meant we got stuck a few times.

I watched as our guide sat at the back of the raft rowing from his high position and looking ahead at any rocks and obstacles. You could tell that he loved to problem solve and with the water dropping at such a rapid level each week he was presented with new obstacles and challenges. It goes to show that even when you are doing the same thing that the landscape can change and you have to adapt to a new way in which you tackle a problem.

There was a particular spot on the river where off to the side a tree had fallen many years ago and formed a bridge in front a waterfall. It would have made a spectacular postcard! Due to the drought the tree was about seven metres in the air and below it were rocks. A few months earlier you would have considered walking across this tree knowing that 4 metres below there was a good amount of water. If the water level rose sit only a metre below the tree you would have no hesitation in attempting the crossing. This got me thinking about consequences. The tree never changed but the consequences of falling did.

With any decision there is a consequence and possible various possible outcomes. It depends on our risk profile and what we are prepared to accept as a consequence for our actions as to what we will take on. To fall from a height of seven metres onto rocks is going to produce a different result as to falling one metre into a deep river. If the river is flowing fast and there is a waterfall just up the stream it will again change our perception of the risk in crossing the tree.

The lesson is that the world is forever changing and just because it was ‘too risky’ to make a decision six months ago on a career move or something in your life doesn’t mean that you can’t revisit it now to assess how the land lies.

Who knows you might cross to the other side and the result could be more Wananavu than you could have imagined!

Chris Bellesini
Remember, You Too, Can
Choose Your Own Success

21 – Paintball & Unlimited Lives!

It is interesting how even a simple game of paintball amongst mates is full of life lessons, well at least for me it is. For those not familiar with the sport of paintball (also known as skirmish), it is a game where teams of typically 5-8 people shoot paintballs at each other in a series of fun mini games with different rules and scenarios. It involves skill, vision and accuracy… but not always!

paintballOn the weekend I played paintball with a friend who is getting married in three weeks. Boys will be boys and shooting paint at each other may seem crazy but it is a heap of fun. Some of the games we played involved taking out the enemies, once you were shot you raised your hands to indicate that you had been ‘killed.’ The last man standing was the winner and the rest of us wiped the paint away and did it all again. In these games, there was no point being reckless as the consequences were final. Once shot, you sat out and watched the game from the sidelines, so the tactics were if you wanted to survive, play it safe.

In some of the mini games we played we had an objective to achieve such as carrying a treasure chest from one end of the field to the other. In this particular scenario the team carrying the chest was given ‘unlimited lives.’ In these games once shot all you had to do was put your hands in the air and go back to the base and start again.

Now wouldn’t that be nice that in life, if every time we stuffed up we could simply put our hands in the air and start again with no consequence. In fact, not only was there no consequence other than a little bit of time lost, there was a chance to learn from your mistakes to put you in a better position second time round.

The other interesting thing to note is how we played to the rules in the different games. Let’s say that you had unlimited lives yet played as you only had one, scared to take a risk and spending the game hiding behind an obstacle. The end result is that you would neither win nor lose. Time would just pass you by and eventually the referee would blow her whistle and say game over.

This is not all that different to living your life scared to stick a limb out from time to time and hiding just in case you got shot. But what if your risks had no consequences? What if being shot down was a minor hurdle that you could learn from for next time? The real question is, if you knew that you had unlimited lives and nothing could stop you eventually achieving your goals would you hold back or get out of the trenches and run full pace at your challenge?

Throughout our lives, our collection of learning experiences make us who we are. We can hide and avoid risks, but understand that this approach will mean that life will pass you by without the bigger rewards. Alternatively we can recognise that in our lives risks can be taken and as long as they are calculated. Sometimes we only do have one shot at things and the cautious path is best. Often however, we perceive a challenge to be much bigger than it is when our lives are actually unlimited. The worst thing that can happen is that you will get shot down and have to go back and start again. So what? Being hit is not a bad thing, it will actually make you stronger.

Good luck to Flynny and Greenie who get married in three weeks time.

Chris Bellesini
Remember, You Too, Can
Choose Your Own Success